After my divorce, I honestly thought that I would never be able to love deeply again. Even though I initiated my divorce, it was still emotionally devastating and hard to come to terms with at times.
Now, I’ll be the first to admit that I didn’t deal with the end of my marriage in the most healthy way. I went a little wild. The truth is, I was trying to take my mind off the fact that my marriage had failed and that I was hurting my kids by breaking up our family. Looking back, I wish I had handled it differently.
In the middle of my divorce, I met my current boyfriend. There was something about him that completely captured my soul. He was different than my ex-husband. He liked to do adventurous things and also made his physical health a priority, which was important to me since I, too, make that a priority.
As I said before, I didn’t think I could ever love deeply again. But guess what? I love my boyfriend deeply, but it’s a sweeter, richer love. It’s the kind of love that blossoms from maturity, experience and having loved and lost in the past. Not to downgrade the love I shared with my ex, but it’s true that you love differently each time.
My boyfriend and I have had our ups and downs, just like any other relationship. The difference is both he and I have grown together. There’s something so precious about that; perhaps because I’ve never had that before. He is my rock and I am his. We know each others quirks and we’re both receptive to each of us calling us out on those quirks.
So if you’re single, wondering if you’ll ever be able to love again, have no fear…love will come back around, but it’ll be different than the last. If you’ve learned from your past relationship, love the second time around will be better.